how does something this small even exist? is this a pig molecule? i need to lay down a while
also this is my favorite vine
so here’s some weird Corgi mixes
I’M FREAKIN OUT GUYS
WAKE UP WORLD #YesAllWomen
That steak analogy is my favorite,
ANON PLEASE I think my boyfriend has internalized a lot of society’s harmful messages about women and sex and consent and I’m struggling to change his mind. Whenever we talk about this kind of thing, he gets defensive (“not all men”/“but women rape too!”) and it’s all so cliché – comparing rape victims to robbery victims (“of course it’s never the victim’s fault, BUT you need to be careful”), nice guys finish last/women like assholes, he’s been stuck in the “friendzone”…
STILL ANON PLEASE …he doesn’t believe rape stats because no woman has ever confided in him that she’s been raped… Eventually he agrees with me, but then we end up having the same debate again the next week, or he says things like “Logically I know you’re right…I just can’t see it that way”. I’m having a really hard time reconciling my sweet wonderful boyfriend who treats me so well with this guy who apparently thinks this way. Do you think it’s possible to educate him, and how should I do it?
I think you two should try sitting down and watching some documentaries together so he can hear it from other people instead of just you. You can then discuss the films afterward and over time, see if his views change. Some documentaries I recommend are Miss Representation, The Invisible War, Killing Us Softly, and Saving Face. (Followers, please comment with more documentary suggestions if you have them!)
I also think he would benefit from watching some Jackson Katz speeches because Katz is a male feminist ally and he can teach your boyfriend the idea that, as a man, he doesn’t have to defend men or be complacent in toxic masculinity and rape culture. Here’s a Jackson Katz TED talk about male violence against women, here’s a speech he did about how men respond to their privilege being threatened, here’s one about how masculinity as a construct and a standard is harmful to men and women. There are a lot more speeches by him that you can find on Youtube.
It’s unfortunate that your boyfriend will probably hear and value Katz’ words more than any female speaker at this point, but you have to start somewhere, and I think it’s more important than he understands the need for feminism at all than is only shown women’s voices and never fully hears them because he lacks their perspective and is too defensive of his position as a man. He may just have a bigger learning curve when it comes to learning to fully listen to and empathize with women, and I think having a male ally like Katz to show him how to do that is better than him never getting that far. I hope this helps, good luck.